What is the intention behind conducting a successful Body Language workshop? The person attending the workshop hopes that it will add some value and similarly, the person conducting the workshop hopes that it will actually do what it is designed to; add value. However, when a workshop is being conducted, the biggest factor that is detrimental to its success is, the listener’s apprehension. It is generally seen that most of the people attending any workshop or lecture are initially in a defensive frame of mind. In body language terms, when a person sits with his or her arms folded, it means that the person is on the defensive, and when you are defensive you are also the least receptive.
Our subconscious mind operates in a predefined format. In physics, chemistry or maths, there are a certain set of steps which have a predefined outcome. Similarly, when you fold your arms, your subconscious mind automatically relates it to being defensive and non-receptive. It automatically creates an invisible barrier which blocks everything that is being said, from entering your head. There is something that the speaker might say that could trigger something positive in your mind and put you in the fast lane to success. So I suggest you, not to lose a single opportunity of attending one or many of these workshops. And when you are attending one of these workshops, loosen your arms, chill out and enjoy the ride.
The more you learn about non-verbal communication and body language, the better you will get at reading other people. Relationships will improve at home, at work and at social gatherings. Overall quality of life will improve. Your own body language will go through a positive change and reap benefits for you and your loved ones.
How often have we heard this term; Actions speak louder than words. But in reality, how many of us apply it in our day to day life. Literally speaking, this term advocates that what we do is more important than what we say. Let’s look at the meaning of this term from a different angle. For example, try listening to a three minute movie scene on your headphones. Now watch a different three minute movie scene on a screen with the mute button on. Now, if I were to ask you to reprise the two scenes the next day, you are more likely to remember most of the scene that that you saw than the one you heard.
What does this say to you? It is a known fact that only 7% of our communication is spoken words, 55% is non-verbal and 38 % is the tone of our voice. We generally try to concentrate on what we are saying, whereas we should be more concerned about how we are saying what we are saying as well as what our body is saying. More often than not if we are saying what we are saying, from the bottom of our heart, the body and the voice will reflect similar emotions.
Let me give you an example; if your passion is cars, and you eat, breathe and sleep cars, and if you are sitting with a bunch of friends on a cosy evening and the topic of the evening shifts to cars, you will be the most animated character out of the bunch when you speak about the topic close to your heart. Your hand movements will be positive, your facial expressions will be positive and your posture will be the best that you’ve ever displayed. What I mean to say is that, tone of your voice and your body language will be a mirror image of the words that are coming out your mouth. What this will also do is that your display of emotions combined with your words will create a positive and long lasting impression on the minds of whoever was present, whether they were interested in cars or not.
However, in our day to day circle of events, life is more likely to present situations where we will not be at a liberty to express ourselves as passionately or as enthusiastically as we would have if the topic of discussion or the situation at hand was especially close to our heart. It is in these difficult or adverse situations, where there are chances of you portraying a mismatch between your words and your actions. Not only will this create a negative impact on the individual or the group of people you are communicating with, your words will also hold no value and will easily be forgotten.
Not everybody is an orator. There are a very few people who can weave magic with words and can simply keep the audience spellbound with what they are saying, which is all the more reason why everybody should familiarise themselves with the fine art of non-verbal communications because ultimately, `Actions Speak Louder Than Words’.
U Turn Grooming is an initiative to educate students and corporate employees about the intricacies of non verbal communication and body language. When I was younger, I was never exposed to any formal training on grooming and personality development and faced rejection on various occasions, as a result. It is however my dream to spread the awareness about grooming and personality development to as many people as possible so that they are better equipped to overcome the challenges that they might face and pave their way to a successful future.